3 Ways to Break Free and Try Something New

Is it Your time to do something you’ve never done? What have you been thinking about changing, but haven’t told anyone? What is holding you back from that dream?

Tip 1 – Tell someone you trust. Why is it we hold our dreams so close that we can be afraid of sharing them? Does it seem silly? Are we afraid of being laughed at? As you speak it out loud, you begin to clarify it – what do you really want to accomplish? This process can really help you sift through your ideas with someone else. By being open and listening to others’ ideas, you will actually gain clarity and meaning. Friends and family that really know you can be great supporters so be sure to talk with someone that can also challenge you. Successful people are surrounded by realness…not just ‘yes’ people that tell them what they want to hear. Sometimes talking to an expert coach helps to gain a different perspective as well. Contact Tammy for a free consultation

Tip 2 – Believe in yourself. Identify what is holding you back – make a list…then counter each of those points with a rebuttal. And trust your own instincts. I don’t think we have dreams that are impossible for our abilities. Maybe we need another person to reach the dream, but I believe the dreams we have are dreams we can reach.

I wanted to launch Discovering Your Purpose as an online class or a book for so long. My list of reasons to ‘go out on the limb’ and try to reach people with the message and offering was long. People responded well to the trainings I conducted. It made a very real and significant difference in my own life to bring peace and well-being. I know that it’s important and that people can live while expressing their real selves. But, I also had a long list of challenges standing in my way – that list was written on my office white board. The list included statements such as: Maybe the message isn’t that important. Why would strangers listen to me? Will my friends and family think I’m ridiculous? I’m not vibrant, energetic, and exciting to keep people engaged. I tried to market it last year and didn’t sell any courses. Ugh…once in a while, I would make myself a rebuttal next to one of those challenges but I left that list up for a long time.

Randomly, one day, I was crossing a parking lot and an older gentleman yelled out his window to stop me, “Hey, don’t ever let anyone call you a dumb blond.” I stopped in my tracks, looking over my shoulder to be certain he was talking to me. “uh…OK,” I replied. He continued, “because there is only one meaning to ‘dumb’ – and that is to be unable to speak”. I awkwardly said thanks and moved on with my errands…confused at his loud and specific dialogue. After sharing the story with a friend, we happened to be in my office a few days later and he pointed to the white board. Written next to those challenges was a two word rebuttal in red marker “that’s DUMB”. Coincidence? I don’t think so. Validation from the universe.. uh, Yes.

What messages are you ignoring? What doubts are you allowing? What would you tell yourself as rebuttal to the reasons you aren’t making a change?

Tip 3 – Just Do Something

Take one action toward that dream, idea, or change. Sometimes we can make significant differences with small steps. Dip your toe in the water. Try something different. Too often, I think that people think about change as big and dramatic. Change can be incremental.

Ideas for Trying Something New:

• Read a book about the topic

• Google someone that has done the same thing

• Shadow someone in that work

• Invite someone knowledgeable to coffee

• Just tell someone and brainstorm

• Do one thing every day toward that goal

• Start a journal – free form writing can let your subconscious thoughts come forward

• Meditate

• Sit quietly for 5 minutes a day – only thinking about that idea

• Volunteer in an organization of similar work or topic

• Learn a new skill

• Take a personality assessment

• Use the feeling wheel to explore how you connect to the idea emotionally

• While thinking about the idea, play with playdoh, build with Legos, or draw with crayons

• Make a list of how the idea will change others

• Write a plan for the idea

Don’t wait – Do something now to make a change for tomorrow. contact Tammy today for your free consultation!